Well, maybe it was true love...maybe it wasn't.
But it ended anyway.
In the spring of 1988, I was engaged to a young lady who I thought was going to be my lifetime mate.
After several years of dating, having that major talk with her parents, and purchasing a diamond, we set the date.
But six months from our wedding date, I detected (my mother also detected) that my feelings, desires, and emotions were at a different place than my fiancés. I could get no real response from her...and I also often noticed that other couples 'in love' seemed to be in a different place than we were. I was feeling like a lower priority than I should be in a love relationship leading to marriage. I was very confused, yet there was no denying that my love wasn't being returned.
So after praying and seeking trusted counsel, in sadness I called my fiancé and asked her to bring the diamond and meet me at a mall in central Louisiana. There, I collected the diamond, we visited and said our goodbyes, and I walked away in tears, driving on down the road of life that God had planned for me.
But in driving away from that situation...I drove right into the arms of my current wife and mate, Regina, who I married almost two years later.
What was going on in those circumstances? Was God at work? Was He in fact involved in those important circumstances of my life? You better believe He was! My fiancé at that time was a very sweet, godly, lady from a wonderful Christian home. She was smart, gifted, and talented.
But we weren't God's best for each other.
Sometimes we try and force our plans and force what we want and desire for our lives. We honestly and sincerely believe that what we want is the absolute best for our lives. But many times that simply isn't so. We suddenly find that we were SINCERELY wrong! When we demand our way and our plans, we simply will be settling for second best.
Believe me...when it comes to God's perfect Will in your life, you don't ever want to settle for second best. Especially in marriage.
We only want God's BEST. At all times. And God gave me the best in Regina and Thomas.
So once again...I hear those scriptural words, "For God causes all things to work together for Good...!"
Thank you, Lord, for stopping my GOOD plans and showing me your BEST plans, even when I don't recognize them at first.